Three tips to boost your confidence

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When faced with a big challenge where potential failure seems to lurk at every corner, you’ve probably heard the advice, “Be more confident!” But where does confidence come from, and how can you get more of it? Here are three easy tips to boost your confidence.

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Survive job rejection

YOU have been praying for that big break and you finally get the call for an interview. Two days after what you consider was a great interview, you get the call, but not the answer you were anticipating. A job rejection is something that nobody wishes to experience, but it happens. The sooner you get over the disappoinment, the sooner you’ll be on the way to finding the best post for you.

1. Be confident and open-minded

You are brilliant, and you graduated top of your class, and while confidence is important, always leave room for the possibility that things don’t always work out the way we want them to. If you decide to claim a job that was never given to you, it becomes more likely that you will become depressed when you are rejected.

2. Don’t beat yourself up

A rejection can impact your confidence severely, but it’s not healthy to torture yourself. Instead, think of yourself at point zero and use this opportunity to assess yourself by revisiting and building on core values. Consider your tone, language, dress and all the other factors while creating the positive energy you need to prepare for your other interviews.

3. Take away something positive

Despite the outcome, you must have learned something from the interview. If you executed it well, it may very well be that the recruiters were hoping for something different, and it may not have necessarily been that you failed at the interview. Use the interview experience as a tool to build a wall of resilience.

4. Ask for feedback

While some employers provide feedback along with rejection letters, not all of them do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking politely about the reason for your rejection. Never assume that you didn’t make the cut because you were not competent enough.

5. Identify your weaknesses

One of the most common factors for an interview rejection is lack of technical knowledge. But there are a number of reasons that could have factored in your rejection. Use the feedback to address your weaknesses. It is best when this is done immediately, so that you will be more prepared for your next interview.

6. Initiate your plan ‘B’

It is never a wise decision to apply for one job. Apply for several jobs for which you meet the criteria, even when you don’t want to. Pursuing multiple decisions may work in your favour, since one job rejection may help you to master the weaknesses and prepare yourself as necessary for the upcoming ones.

7. Leave the past in the past

Consider what went wrong, assess the interview, and make the corrections to your errors. But, don’t dwell on it. Don’t try to discuss it with everyone who is willing to listen, and more importantly, don’t allow it to become a nightmare. Instead, focus on your achievements, and your dreams. This should be a source of inspiration and motivation for you.

8. Remind yourself you are not alone

Hundreds, nay thousands of people get turned down every year. It is important that you know you shouldn’t use interviews as professional validation. It does not mean that you are not professional or lack the ability to do the job. All it means is that you were not what they were looking for at that particular time.

9. Erase that frown

The best way to face your fear, which is rejection in this case, is to keep a smile on your face. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it will be okay. Your dream job is waiting for you. All it requires is for you to search a little harder, and sometimes a little wider, but it’s already there.

Cheer up!

Source (The Jamaica Observer)

Rules of Men’s Dress

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All style is relative.  Some people will disagree with what this blog dictates is good style, and this blog would most likely disagree with them on what they think is good style.  As you can imagine, this results in a situation in which there is no single list of men’s dress rules that are comprehensive and absolute.  The following are a set of rules that The Fine Young Gentleman stands by.  There are some rules that are immutable, such as the one that a man should match the metal of the bit on his loafer with the buckle on his belt with the metal on his suspenders with the buttons on his blazer with the metal of his cufflinks.  Then there are some rules that have exceptions, such as the rule that a man’s socks should match the color of his pants.  The Fine Young Gentleman’s rules are derived from a variety of sources including tradition, classic rules of men’s dress, common sense and personal taste.

1.      Thou shall match the metal of the bit on his loafers, belt buckle, suspenders, blazer buttons and cufflinks.

2.      Thou need not match the metal on his watch with the other metals he is wearing, however, it is preferable.

3.      Thou can wear black shoes with a navy suit/pants.

4.      Thou shall only wear black, brown or oxblood (burgundy) leather shoes for business dress.  The only exceptions allowed are white bucks.  Blue, green or any other colored shoes are inappropriate.

5.     White bucks are badass.

6.     Thou shall match the color of his socks with the color of his pants.  As an exception, socks can be matched to something worn above the waist such as a man’s shirt, tie, pocket square or suspenders (braces in the UK).

7.     Thou shall match the color of his belt to that of his shoes.  This holds true in all situations except when wearing white bucks.

8.     Thou need not match the leather on his watchband with that of his shoes and belt, however, it is preferable.

9.     Thou shall wear a belt when wearing pants with belt loops.

10.  Thou shall never, ever, ever use their belt to hold accessories like beepers, phones, Blackberrys, ID tags and/or keys.

11.  If pants do not have belt loops they should have side tabs and/or  buttons for use with suspenders (braces).

12.  Thou shall never wear a tie and pocket square of the same pattern.  The sports commentators who do so look like fools.

13.  Thou shall not wear a French cuff (double cuff) shirt without a jacket.

14.  Thou shall always doubt salespeople and in-store tailors opinions on fashion, style and fit. The stores they work for pay them, not you.  Their motives are to sell products to who will buy them, not necessarily to who will look best in them.

15.  Thou shall not wear slip on shoes with a suit.  In fact, they should be avoided.

16.  Thou can wear loafers with a suit, however, this is mostly practiced in America.

17.  Loafers are badass, especially those with bits or tassels.

18.  Thou shall not wear flat toe/square toe shoes.  They should be avoided like the plague.  They are cancerous to a man’s wardrobe.  They are aesthetically offensive.  Their sole purpose lies in showing men what not to wear.  Money spent on these would have been better spent on Enron stock circa June 2000.

19.  Thou shall only wear patent leather shoes for black tie (semi-formal) and white-tie (formal) occasions.  Patent leather is never acceptable to be worn in a dress or causal setting.

20.  Thou shall never wear a long necktie for a semi-formal (black tie) affair, even if that tie is solid black.

21.  Thou can wear brown suede shoes for business dress.  They are elegant and gentlemanly.

22.  Brown suede shoes are badass.

23.  Thou shall not wear Chesterfield coats, which are typically signified by a velvet collar, with anything of less formality than a suit.  They should not be worn with business casual attire.

24.  Thou shall not wear a tie without a jacket.  If done so, he will run the risk of looking like a waiter at TGI Fridays.

25.  Thou shall not wear suspenders (braces) without a jacket.  Sorry hipsters.

26.  Thou shall only wear suspenders (braces) that utilize buttons, not clips.  Again, sorry hipsters.

27.  Thou shall not wear a crew neck undershirt when the top button of a shirt is left unbuttoned.  When leaving the top button unbuttoned thou shall wear a v-neck undershirt as The Dude does.  The Dude abides.

28.  Thou can wear brown suits for business dress.

29.  Thou shall only wear shirts with white collars and white cuffs with a jacket.  These shirts should not be part of a business casual wardrobe, that is, one where suits are not utilized.

30.  Thou shall leave the bottom button of vest (waistcoat) unbuttoned.  Except when wearing a double breasted or flat bottomed vest, in which case the bottom button should remain buttoned.

31.  Thou should iron the collar of a shirt before wearing it.  Creased collars caused by dry cleaning and hanging do not follow the natural circularity of one’s neck.

32.  Thou shall utilize a pocket square when wearing a jacket.

33.  Pocket squares are underrated, underutilized and most importantly they are badass.

34.  Thou shall not wear a back pack/book bag when in business dress, especially when in a suit.  Book bags are reserved for casual wear and students.

35.  Thou shall not wear a shirt with any type of logo on it in a business setting, including when in business casual dress.  These shirts should be reserved for casual wear.

36.  Thou shall wear a tie bar at a slant, not horizontal.

37.  Off color shirts with a white collar should have French (double) cuffs, regardless of whether of not the cuffs are white or the same color or pattern as the shirt.

38.  Life is more fun in a tuxedo (dinner jacket).

39. Thou shall never button all three buttons of a three button jacket. Sometimes the top, always the middle and never ever ever the bottom.

40.  Thou shall wear over the calf socks as opposed to crew socks whenever possible.  For they are far superior in both form and function.

41.  Thou shall not wear a solid black suit for business or professional activities.  Save it for formal events and funerals.

42.  Style is a state of mind.

43.  It is impossible for a man to be considered well dressed if his shoes are in poor taste or of noticeably poor quality.  For any good ensemble is built on a fine pair of shoes.

44.  Thou shall not wear sport sunglasses with a suit.  It’s like wearing socks with sandals; everyone else knows its wrong, why don’t you?

45.  Thou shall not wear a sports watch with a suit.  It would be like playing lacrosse in dress shoes, and no one wants to see that.

46.  There should be no presence of logo or branding when wearing a suit.  For example, do not wear a Polo shirt with the Polo logo on it under a suit jacket or a Burberry tie with the Burberry tartan (although the scarfs are fine).  The emphasis of a suit should be the fit, not the brands it is worn with.

47.  It is better to be overdressed than underdressed.

48.  A man need not an excuse to wear a tie or jacket.  In other words, a man need not an excuse to dress up.  Despite the fact that in today’s society it seems he does need one.

49.  Never, ever, ever wear a black dress shirt with a suit (or a dinner jacket/tuxedo for that matter).  Just because they may be or may have been ‘on trend’ does not mean one will ever look good on you.

50.  Thou shall take off his sunglasses when talking to someone else who is not wearing sunglasses.  Unless thou is at the beach or pool.

51.  Thou shall take off his sunglasses when inside.  Even if thou art Bono.

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TechLec: Building Your Own Network for a Computer Lab

Level: Beginner
Presenter: Eli the Computer Guy
Date Created: February 15, 2013
Length of Class: 17:05
Tracks
Networking
Classes that Require a Computer Lab
Prerequisites
Setting Up Port Forwarding
TCP/IP and Subnet Masking
Understanding SOHO Routers
Understanding Switches
Introduction to Networking
Physical Network Segmentation
Purpose of Class
This class teaches students why they should set up a separate Computer Lab network on their home network if they will be creating test servers and networks. It also explains the basic concepts such as; Port Forwarding to Multiple Layers of Routers, the Need for Different IP Subnets on the Same LAN, and that Conflicting Server Services can cause odd problems.

Class Notes
Reasons for a Separate Computer Lab Network– DNS and DHCP issues, performance problems
Lab Network must be on a different IP Network then other LAN Networks. 192.168.1.x, 192.168.2.x, 192.168.3.x
For access to servers form outside world port forwarding on your ISP Router must be pointed at the Router for your Lab Network
Any $60 Linksys Router can be used to create a lab network.
Lab Network Router External Interface needs to be configured to be on the same network as the ISP Router’s Internal Interfaces.